My general morning routine consists of the following – coffee, something stodgey (cake preferably) and a spot of TV while I make my face look half decent.
I do try and eat healthy *pats nutribullet on the head and promises to visit soon* but I crave sugar in the morning.. afternoon and evening if I’m honest!
‘Feeding time’ is the ideal time for a spot of browsing. By browsing….I’m talking Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and the Blog to check for messages / stats etc.
I try not to get annoyed when a photo that I posted on IG, which I considered pretty decent, gets about 10 likes,while over on another account a bashed up banana, gets thousands. Daft eh? That the NFD has had a few hits, but no major viewing figures and as per normal not one single comment! Its dis-heartening.
I really couldn’t care what Auntie Pat over on Facebook was having for her breakfast! and Twitter… Pfffff …don’t even get me started on that. I’d sure I’d get more response talking to my garden wall. I Feel like screaming is there anybody out there?!!
But this morning over on Twitter I read something that put everything in perspective and made me feel very, very silly for thinking that way. It made me realise that I spend far too much time sweating over the small stuff. I’m 44 years old for heavens sake , not 4. I need to re-address my mind-set.
More so It made me cry. Buckets.
It was a piece taken from the Huffington Post and retweeted by the lovely Katie Portman ( Pouting in heels). It is the final words from Charlotte Kitley a lady who died on Tuesday, 16th September from Stage-4 bowel cancer. It’s her Goodbye.
Each word pulls on your emotions, it’s beautiful in it’s sadness.
It makes you want to seize the day, because my friend we are lucky and we can. It makes you realise that life is precious, that we should grab it by the balls and enjoy the ride. It brought home to me that there are far, far, far more important things than likes … Like Living, loving and laughing. Likes don’t make you a better person ;It’s very easy to get wrapped up in the world of social media but I hope to god I won’t be remembered for how many likes/comments I got on a post but for the impact I had on people, for the good times and the memories. For the things social media doesn’t see ..me falling down when I laugh, my mean dolphin impression ( it’s rubbish but it makes me giggle) , the fact I can drink a pint of Guinness in 12 seconds. The important little things that build the bigger picture. Build me.
With that in mind I’m going to sign off… I’m going to jump on my sleepy boyfriend and tell him how much I love him. I’m going to pop and see my mum, a cancer sufferer herself ; give her a big hug and tell her it’s all going to be ok. To ring my friends, just to say hi and arrange a much-needed night out. And because I’m feeling so elated I might even hug a stranger… or bake a cake, because I don’t bake enough; I enjoy it and it won’t get me arrested!
Please take a moment, get your tissues ready and have a read.
Later l’ll be having my usual Friday night “start of the weekend” drink. Only tonight I’ll be looking up at the stars and toasting a very brave lady who lost the battle.
“We’re all travelling through time together every day of our lives. All we can do is do our best to relish this remarkable ride.” About Time
Until next time, Tracey x
8 thoughts on “NFD -This so called thing called Life…”
Love reading your blogs. Its good to once in a while to step back and take in what you have got and want in life. When anyone moans about not having the time to clean their house or something similar because they are busy being a mum, wife, lover, friend, sister, grandma or auntie I always say ‘Does it really matter as you won’t be lying on your deathbed wishing you had a clean house will you?!’ Good to see my favourite quote ever on your blog. Rebecca x
Thanks Rebecca, yes it really made me think and put things in perspective. That quote, that film! I always tell people to watch it because it has such a feel good factor to it. Thankyou for popping by and commenting. We love getting feedback 🙂 Tracey xx
I’m so thrilled Charlotte’s beautiful post touched you , because it really touched me too. And as you say, it puts EVERYTHING into perspective.
I think when you’re a blogger it’s just so very easy to get swept along in the craziness of social media and start to judge everything by numbers, likes, stats and shares. We all do it, I too, just like you,have felt dismayed when posts haven’t resonated with people or my Twitter numbers go down. It’s ridiculous isn’t it?
However, the older I get, the more I blog, the more I realise none of this matters a jot. What matters is what we give back to the world. What matters is how we love and care for people. What matters is how we spend our time.
Sometimes we forget about the greater scheme of things and that’s why, when pieces like Charlotte’s come along, they shake us to our core and rightly so.
Thank you for sharing your lovely thoughts, Charlotte’s last piece of writing and for my mention.
Keep on keeping on Tracey. You’re doing just wonderfully to me.
Thankyou lovely Katie, your words as always are beautiful. Yes it definately puts things into prospective, makes you think !!
Keep keeping… I love that saying
Thanks again for popping by, Tracey xx
Hi Tracy, sorry for the late reply.
I’m so glad you enjoyed (maybe not the best word) this post and I hope you’ll visit again soon
I indeed raised my glass to Charlotte Friday night , Thanks again Tracey xx
Hi Tracey. Thank you for writing this post and sharing this heartbreaking & inspiring message. Enjoy your tipple tonight, I too will be raising a glass to you, Charlotte & Kate (whose blog I am now following). much love Tracy xx
If this were on FB I’d be giving it a like, but it’s not…..just want to say, how true and how liberating it is to get things into perspective and realise that life is for living. This past year or so I have learnt so much to recognise and treasure the positives and just to get on and enjoy everything I have. So I’ll join you in raising a glass to Charlotte tonight.
Thankyou so much for taking the time to comment Peter. Your so very right life is for living and I’m glad your in a good place. Have grand weekend, Tracey